In the past, I found it easier to accept distance, coldness + unavailability in my partnerships, because it supported me in fulfilling my "good girl" paradigm. It supported me in staying comfortably small + riddled with over-responsibility.
Now, I choose me.
Happiness is non-negotiable. When we waiver our right to speak our truth because we are afraid of how we may sound to another or how accepting of us they will be, we compromise ourselves. From that point of compromise, our inner "good girl" or "good boy" spends countless minutes + endless breaths trying to fix.
When we speak our Hearts truth, we claim our Power. When we claim our Power, everything conspires to support us.
BE BOLD.
Release hidden agendas, expectations + conditions.
Be a beacon of light for yourself, trust in your inner resourcefulness to persevere. Then the questions becomes "what can I do to better prepare myself for..." not "how am I ever going to..." The payout from this power statement is clarity, action + alignment.
Unnecessary pain + suffering comes forward when we insist on committing to be being seen as pleasing, versus true. When we commit to powerlessness instead of embracing our right to discover + uncover ourselves.
BE COURAGEOUS.
It's only important that you get you.
Release the agenda of perfection, release the desire to understand others. Perhaps consider that when we instead, spend time + energy understanding ourselves, getting familiar with how our body + our emotions speak to us, we simultaneously are gifting ourselves permission to take up space in our lives + in our dreams. To exist with courage is less of a measure of bravery, but rather a measure of personal integrity. That is, how in sync with our hearts are we willing to be? How connected to US can we stand to be?
BE YOU.
To live selfishly, when from an intention of love, growth + expansion, welcomes breath, lightness + peace. We are often taught the lesson of over-responsibility to outcome, to another's emotional well-being + to perceived failures having to mean something about us. What if instead, we were solely responsible for our emotionality, for our alignment?
Relationships to self or otherwise are investments. It's ok to be selfish. It's ok to be discerning of who you welcome into your most intimate sphere. From this position of "I choose," of personal power, everything conspires to support us in achieving our BIG.
And, you Love, are destined for a beautiful life.